Monthly Archives: November 2013
Big and Braless
Tonight was a special night. I got to watch a movie all by myself. I can’t remember the last time I got to do that, just finished watching Antwone Fisher, a biography movie. I cried so much my vision is blurry and I can feel my eyes swelling up, just what I need to look even more tired! I must admit my daily life is starting to show on my face, my neighbour randomly walked up to me the other week to tell me how tired I looked and come to think of it, everywhere I go people offer me a seat or something to eat with a worried look on their face.
It is true that I don’t sit a lot, and eating…well we’re on survival mode with that. I always tell Jack that when I’m old and these kids are all grown up all I’m going to do all day is sleep and eat, just to catch up to these times. I warn him “I’m gona get big baby, real big!”
My skin has become very pale, and I’m starting to have circles under my eyes. But I never leave the house without my little 35 second makeup routine. Those who say they don’t have time for makeup need to try this. It literally takes me 35 seconds or less to look alive again. I’ve had endless debates with moms about makeup, but I believe a small touch is necessary, it’s not about being fake or superficial, it’s about basic maintenance. It’s kind of like wearing a bra, basic maintenance.
The only person who sees me without makeup or a bra is Jack.
Well … actually… Jack and … and the bus driver.
See, back when I was a kid I took the school bus to school and every morning I would watch moms bring their kids from the home door to the bus door in their pyjamas, and they were all always braless. I guess it was too early and they were in too much of a rush to put one on, I thought it was gross and I promised myself never to be that.
I have failed myself. I have become just that. I take my child to the bus every morning in my pyjamas with no bra.
I have to stop doing that at least before I become the real big grandma I promised myself I would become. Big, old and braless… it’s going to be priceless, especially that I would’ve called it 40 years before.
Well, this is a perfect example of a post that went too far.
Watch out for the next post “Important message to moms: Keep your nails short and real it’s a question of life”
Kids can’t bother you if you’re not doing anything. Clear up your time and give it to them, parenting will suddenly become much more pleasurable.
Kids are in bed, the game is on and I’m lying down on the couch. I can clearly feel at least three different toys under me. The floor around me is covered in toys, the sink is full and there’s so much laundry to be folded that I don’t know where to start. Problem with all this is that I did clean the house today, I did dishes, even laundry but by the time the day is over toys are back where they started, sink is full to the top again and there’s even more laundry to do now.
So what am I doing now?
I am exhausted, waiting for the game to end to spend some quality time with the husband. Got a good 15 minutes of meditation in the meantime.
What about the mess?
I’ll take care of it tomorrow, it’s a part of our reality and there’s no point in me fighting it.
Not only have I completely accepted the toys, the mess, the drawings on the walls, but I have also completely surrendered myself to the joy they bring me. I am so blessed to be surrounded with these loving children and I am honored to have the responsibilities life has given me. I work on myself every day to be sure to be the happiest and strongest I can be. These kids deserve a happy mom.
Gratitude is my main tool. Having children, among other things, can play with your hormonal balance and effect your emotions. Not only can it make you moody, but it can make you question your life purpose. Have I reached all my set objectives? Is this kind of life meant for me? What about my career? Am I going to be stuck here forever…? All these thoughts can creep up on us and blind us towards the blessings that surround us.
Gratitude, is step one.
Remind yourself of what you are grateful for. I do it all the time, out loud. I’ve now started to do it with the kids.
Do it in the car, in the shower, anytime, all the time. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Name all the people and things you are grateful for. Start with whatever is around you in the moment.
Thank you for a warm home, thank you for my health, thank you for the love I have in my life…
Expressing gratitude brings you back to the now. Right here, right now. It takes you away from tomorrow’s worries and yesterday’s pains. Gratitude is your vehicle to the now. Not only does it bring you here, but it makes you happy. When you are grateful, you automatically start emitting positive vibrations, a positive aura that will attracts positive things into your life.
The now is the only place to be. The future is in our imaginations and the past in our memories. The only time that truly exists is now.
Be grateful , try it. You will see, great things will happen.
So, what are you grateful for right now?