We all want the best for our children. The best school, the best education. We want them to be smart, we teach them and encourage them to do educational activities, Extracurricular activities, dance, ballet, chess, soccer. We want them to be fit, fast and athletic. We want them to look good, we take time to pick out their clothes, we buy them things even if we can’t afford it for ourselves. We want everything for them, everything we never had.
We would give them everything we have, we try our best to do this right , to keep them happy.
But lately I’ve been wondering if we’ve been focussing on the right things. Maybe there’s more we should focus on.
Are they caring enough? Are they companionate? Have we thought them empathy? Are they generous? Are they friendly?
With technology at an all time peak and human interaction at an epic transformation, I wonder everyday what I could do more to teach them to be more.
More grateful, more mindful, more human.
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More, More, More.
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For the love of love just do it!
You have a desire tucked away in the back if your heart, sometimes it’s tucked away so far you’ve never told a soul. A desire, a dream, a wish. You’re full of self doubt and don’t dare to take action towards it.
If the desire exists then a path to its realization also exists, it’s presence in your thoughts is the seed that needs to grow into reality. Will it happen? Will it come true? Only depends on you. The only thing stopping you are your own thoughts. Just do it, go for it, try taking an action in that direction, it doesn’t need to be perfect.
It doesn’t need to be perfect.
It doesn’t need to be perfect.
It just needs to be.
Be , so that it can grow.
This is what I am telling myself today. For the sake of the love you have for this, just do it.
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A mother of three, now back at work.
A mother of three, now back at work.
After two years of maternity leave, I am back at work and so far it is a complete disaster. Kids keep me up all night and by the time quiet sets in my alarm clock kicks in to remind me that it’s another day of go go go! Exhaustion and lack of sleep have turned my little brain into mush, and it’s starting to show in my work and everywhere else for that matter.
I drove my daughter to school the other day, we were late so I had to sign her in.
Name: A1
Reason of late arrival: Her baby sisters kept us up all night.
Date:
I paused for a while.
“Excuse me” I asked the secretary, “What date are we?”.
“The 4th” she replied.
So I wrote 4, and then stopped. I thought really hard before I said:
“Excuse me. What month are we?”
She looked at me for a while before she replied: “February!”
So I wrote 02, and then I stopped. And now the year; I wiggled the pen around to buy some thinking time. I just went blank. You know when you wake up from your sleep and you experience a short time of complete blank, when you don’t know if it’s day or night and where you’re going or where you’re coming from, just complete nothingness…I was there, except it was in the middle of the day and I wasn’t in bed. I just stood there, until the secretary worriedly said “2014?!”
Oh yes. I forgot.
Just this week, I sent 3 e-mails to colleagues, then got the “You forgot the attachment” reply. I showed up to a meeting on Monday, just to be told the meeting was Thursday and I got 2 parking tickets this week for not having my parking pass. It didn’t help that we keep switching cars for car seat baby drop off reasons, and my little post-it saying “Sorry,I forgot my pass today” stuck on my windshield didn’t do much for me.
I’m completely lost all the time, between work, dr’s appointments, school projects and due bills, I’m ready for an assistant.This is my reality now, many moms are doing this, we work all day, then pick up the kids and start a second shift, feed them, play with them, bath them, put them to bed…
I usually pass out fully clothed, bra, socks, makeup. I wake up hours later, get up, change, wash my face and go back to bed, only to start all over again a few hours later. I still need some getting used to, but all I can say is, if I thought the house was a mess before, well now it looks like a hurricane went through! Sink is beyond full, school bags and toys everywhere, laundry basket invasion. But I’m not stressing over them. I’ll get to it when I can. If you’re in this situation, know that you’re not alone. Just take it day by day, moment by moment, don’t look back and don’t look forward, just now. Simply be, and take the time to play and laugh.
Ok enough blogging for tonight, for once that I’m not knocked out I should go give Jack some attention.
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Bed String Noises and Rocking Motion: Rants of a Sleepless Mama.
My Saturday night 1:30 am.
I passed out around 10:30 with the kids still jumping in my bed. After preparing three meals, entertaining them for hours and bathing all three and Having to start all over after a horrifying potty training poop disaster, I was exhausted. It was 10 pm and they were still going strong, Full of energy, laughing , dancing and jumping on our bed. I seized the opportunity to sit down when the rocking motion and the sounds of the strings in the bed must’ve knocked me out.
A short time ago the combination of rocking motion and the sound of the strings in the bed meant something completely different .
Not completely different I guess… After all it is that that led to this!
I suddenly woke up 30 minutes later dazed and confused to find them still playing In
my bed. I flipped out, yelled at them and sent them to bed. They ran baby!
Then I went in, bottles, pacifiers, tucky- tucky, night light, “love you”, kiss-kiss, then I wobbled back to my bed and knock out!
Got woken up by A1 at 1:00 am.
-“I’m sweating in this blanket, but I don’t want to change pyjamas or blankets and my left nostril is clogged.”
Then A3 woke up.
Hip hip hurray it’s Saturday night. No worries only 15 more years to go until me and Jack can tell you new stories about our Saturday nights…
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Fortune Cookie Talk Show
Kids are in bed, it’s friday night and all I can think of is my bed.
So this week marks the first year anniversary of Julietalk.com. Already a year has gone by and what a year it was. The other day A1 was eating a fortune cookie when she ran to show me the pile of fortunes she found in that cookie. All said the same thing “Accept the next offer you receive”.
The same week, I received a call from the Unclehood Productions, they want me to host a weekly one hour slot.
I didn’t think about it, all I could think of was that fortune cookie. So I said yes. I’m thinking now perhaps I should’ve thought about it a little before…
So more of my random, unorganized thoughts on everything and anything coming your way…only this time on a Live internet talk show.
It’s out now. I can’t back away from this project, I’m going to have to put my big girl panties on, put my fears aside and go for it.
A3’s up crying. Gotta go!
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This past night’s log: How to be Happy on Monday?
11:00 pm A3 feeding
12:15 am A1 nightmare wake up
1:47 am A3 up for no reason
2:47 am A3 up for no reason
3:47 am A3 standing up again
4:35 am A1 thinks its morning
5:05 am A2 milk
Alarm set for 6:15 am
Getting ready to go to work…
This too will pass.
Thank goodness I’m young today.
I’m not the only one in this situation, it’s normal , I’m ok, I’m happy.
If you slept last night, be grateful , if you had a warm bed, be grateful, if you have a roof over your head be grateful.
Be grateful, see clearly, be happy.
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Stop Pretending: Truths about parenting
Baby asleep in mom’s arms, family of four on the beach, kids playing in snow while parent sip on hot chocolate, beautiful clean and organized baby rooms, dinner at the dining room table with the kids… All images that depict the family lives. Or should we say family lies?
In reality the baby’s screaming in his moms arms for the whole night because he has colics and all she can do is wait 10 weeks to 10 months for them to pass, she’s sleepless and hormone packed, her life has just taken a spin and nobody has warned her about any of this.
The family of four on the beach can’t afford to be there in the first place, they went through hell and back trying to pack diapers, formula, food, sand toys, toys, dvds and they are doomed because they forgot to bring the favourite blanket without which baby won’t sleep, mom and dad haven’t had a single moment to themselves, now on top of everything they have to make sure their children don’t eat sand or get sun burns, everyone got diarrhea, and the kids got fever, they visited most of the country’s clinics, and they swore never to take the kids on vacation again yet they’re going to try again every year…. But that one picture they took…. That one moment everything was under control… That’s the pic the whole world get’s to see. Where’s the picture of daddy carrying 8 bags , 4 towels and 2 life jackets, on the burning hot sand while mom pushes the stroller trough the sand shouting ” I think there are lawn chairs available way over there”.
And the kids playing in the snow… Playing for 2 minutes and a half while it took you 20 to dress them. The moment you sit down you’re child is knocking on the door ” snow touched my wrist” because snow will forever get between their glove and jacket sleeve and make you wish you never even bothered.
We don’t know all this until we know, we innocently look at catalogues and see beautiful baby rooms, take the time to set them up while we don’t know that the moment baby gets teeth they’re going to chew that expensive Wooden crib to it’s core, the bed sheets will never ever really match because of the times you are going to change them because of pee and poo stains , the three drawers in the set are not going to be enough and that darling room will look like a plastic bin warehouse by the time you’re done sorting out the 3-6 months, 6-12 months, 12-18 months an have to start all over once you realize that the tag really means nothing about the size and that you always have to eye it.
And dinner at the dining room table … Funny joke! The dining room table might as well be disassembled and stored away for the next 8 years, because the truth is you will be walking around behind them with their supper in your hand trying to get a spoonful through whenever they’re distracted enough. And if they happen to sit at the table there won’t be any room for you because they’ll bring half their toys along with them. If you’re one of those who thinks ” my kids won’t be like that” you’re going to be especially fun to watch as a parent.
It is how it is, and it would be much easier for moms to cope with all of this if they were warned about it .
Lets just stop pretending and just start being.
Be honest, be proud, be happy.
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In reality you only need one fan. Yourself.
In reality you only need one fan. Yourself. The hardest fan to get. Why are we so hard on ourselves ? Why do we need to hear someone else say that we can?
Whether it’s success in business, love, weight loss or any aspect of life,nobody will want your success as much as you. Nobody really knows what you can do before you do it. Don’t wait for others to tell you that you can or that you’re able. Everybody’s responsible for their own life.
You CAN and you ARE able.
Stop looking around for validation. Just go for it!
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Going Great Thanks
You cross someone you know. “Hey how’s it going?” they ask.
How’s it going? You think: I’ve been up for 3 nights straight, my head is pounding since last October, I have to make four back and forth trips to the car every time we go somewhere and that’s only one way, I eat on top of the sink, my main hobbies include taking a child to the Dr. and sometimes I take the wrong child to the wrong Dr.
-“Mam, today was A3’s appointment not A2’s.”
– “I got A2 here; you better lift her shirt and check something, anything! before I go bezerk!”
A3 just woke up. Here we go…
So, how’s it going?
“Going great, thanks” we reply.
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Cold and Grateful
Painfully cold morning here in montreal. Went outside for less than five minutes and couldn’t stand it. It’s days like today that remind us to be grateful for a warm bed and a roof over our heads. No matter what problems we have , if you’re able to read this then you live better than 80% of the population.
Be grateful and mindful .
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This “situation” lasted for exactly 2 hours
9:20 pm. 13 month old A3 is standing up crying in her crib. You would think that the third time around I would know how to handle the situation… Nope, I really don’t.
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