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My business is effort

My business is effort.
What does that mean? It means that all I have to do in this life in order to succeed is make the effort.
Make the effort and things will fall into place. Wishing, praying and positive thinking may or may not be efficient, but your effort is certainly efficient.
Excuses will pour into our thoughts in order to convince us not to do this effort, very valid points will arise proving why the effort should not be put in.
But it is up to us to decide on how bad we want the result.
The bottom line is simple , you are the only one who decides on your actions. God? God is busy with other things and has delegated this responsibility to you. Each one of us is in control of our own life, this is our gift from god.
Once you realize, believe and understand this, not much can stop you.
Looking forward to 2014.


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You are the Cre…

You are the Creator of your own experience.
Take control.

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June 27, 2013 · 3:03 am

A Happy Parenting Secret: How to deal with a toddler’s bed time tantrums.

Lately A2’s been throwing bed time tantrums. She’s almost 2 now. She decides she wants to go to bed, grabs her pacifier, blanket and bottle, does her rounds, says good night to everyone in the house, goes up the stairs and willing goes into her crib. All seems well … until we leave the room.

I’m sitting on a rocking chair, in the hallway, right outside A2’s bedroom where she can see me.

She’s standing up in her crib yelling. She just threw her pacifier, bottle and blanket out.

A2: “Mommmmmmmmmmy!”

Me: “Mommy’s here.”

I just got up, and handed her the pacifier and blanket. She reached out her arms “Please! Please!” and she’s crying really hard. I went back to my chair.

“Mommy’s here” is all I keep repeating.

I’m trying this technique I was taught when A1 was throwing bed time tantrums a few years ago. It worked back then with her, now I’m hoping it will work on A2.

I was told by a family member who is the principal of a daycare, to sit outside her room where she could see me. Make sure you’re not IN her room, she specified. So back then I set up the rocking chair outside A1’s room and I would sit there for 30 to 40 minutes every day until she fell asleep. I was pregnant with A2 then. I loved that time on that chair. If something needed to be done during the day I would leave it for “chair time”, I would fold the laundry, sow, even iron in that spot. Oh I just remembered how Jack would make me ginger tea for my nausea back then. And when I finished my chores, I would read. I’ve never read as much as I’ve read in this chair outside A1’s room.

Here I am, almost two years later, in the same spot.20130625-220158.jpg

It seems to have workedon A2. She’s not crying anymore, and she has her head down.

I love the chair time because you’re on duty but it’s still “me” time.  I’m so happy to be sitting here again. I guess this is where I’ll be blogging from now on.

Now that the Stanley Cup has been won and there’s no more Hockey I was worried about when I’ll have  the chance to blog…but everything worked out.

She’s fallen asleep.

Most of the time I question my parenting skills and wonder if I’m doing the right thing, but it feels so good when I know I’ve done something right.

I’m really happy to be on the chair again, I had forgotten how great it was.

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Beat the Voices Inside Your Head

I’m losing concentration…I can hear a TV on really low, but it’s not mine. Could I be hearing a neighbour’s TV ? I mean the houses here are pretty close together… What if it’s not the TV? What if I’m hearing voices in my head? Ok I’m getting paranoid again. My heart rate just went up a notch.


I’m closing my eyes and focusing on my breathing.  I suddenly forget what was bothering me and I move on. I just did it now and it’s worked so well that I don’t remember what was freaking me out in the first place.

So I’m going to look up and read.

Oh ya the noise. I just realized, it’s coming from my TV. I thought it was on Mute, but it wasn’t. It’s just really really low.

Oups. lol

You see how crazy we can get when our mind is not at peace.

I’m learning…

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The truth about Victoria day

So today was Victoria Day. Or so they said.

Before I started writing this post, I actually Googled: “Victoria Day” to find out if it was actually today.

All I know, is that today, the kids didn’t have school. That means, 3 kids, 3 meals, 2 naps (A1 won’t bend), an outing, baths if necessary (usually only A2), 3 simultaneous but completely different bed time routines including the flapping arm thing I mentioned, a story and 3 warm milks of different preparations and presentations of course. Oh ya, and forgot to mention, endless diaper changes.

So thank You Queen Victoria for letting my husband stay home from work today.

(And then I bow)

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What are you Afraid of ?

Everybody’s afraid of something. Sure we all fear the same things, death, war, ghosts… but then we have that little something that’s not supposed to be scary but still really scares us.

I’m debating wether or not I should disclose my mini-phobia. After all, this is the internet, and telling your weaknesses to the world can only lead to one thing: empowerment.

So what are you afraid of?

I’ll go first…


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